I have had some brilliant days over the past seven and a half months - days when everything flows smoothly, Tabitha is happy and giggling, I get time to bake and read, and The Daddy and I have a long relaxed dinner with a glass of great wine.
Today was not like that! During last night's frightening, awe-inspiring storms across Melbourne (flooding is so dreadful that cars were swept onto their sides on the freeway), our two Burmese cats, Pudding and Possum, went absolutely crazy, leaping in and out of our bedroom window all night (The Daddy was less than thrilled to be woken at 3am by 5kg of wet cat landing directly on his face).
On top of that, Tabitha was incredibly restless throughout the night, and woke at around 4:30am absolutely beside herself. We brought her straight into bed with us, but she was so upset - she didn't want to lie down, or be cuddled, or sit up, or stand up! She wanted to throw herself across my neck, burrow her face into my hair, and wail. Poor little mite's face was so red, puffy, and all screwed up with tears. For nearly two hours, we couldn't do anything but try and hold her while she cried and cried. We finally got her back to sleep at around 6:30am, and she slept solidly and soundly for two and a half hours. I believe it is her teeth that are bothering her - she has six already, with a couple more coming through. She was generally okay today, but still had some moments of becoming very distressed. Heartbreaking.
With both The Daddy and I exhausted from less than a few hours sleep (with the storm, the cats and the baby!), and Tabitha sore and sad, today was a loooong day (with The Daddy at work, poor man). At around 5:30pm, I had Tabby in the Ergo (the only way to keep her happy - she never, ever cries while being worn), and suddenly she became very pale, quiet, then vomited ALL over me - for a couple of minutes, I just stood still while she covered me, the Ergo and herself with curdled milk! She seemed happy enough afterward, so I piled us both into a warm bath, where we splashed around for 45 minutes until The Daddy got home. Thankfully, she fell asleep easily tonight, and now we are enjoying some takeaway and watching a DVD. What a day!
Because I am not returning to work, I had always planned on taking on a volunteer role once Tabitha was past her infancy. I'd thought vaguely about becoming a volunteer zoo guide, since I adore animals, and teaching. I'd also considered becoming involved in the programs set up to teach English to refugee families. Once I joined the Australian Breastfeeding Association, however, I immediately knew that I wanted to become involved on a deeper level - helping women to breastfeed their babies, and helping raise community awareness about breastfeeding, are areas I am incredibly passionate about. My breastfeeding journey was, like so many women, initially fraught issues including mind-numbing nipple pain from deep cracks, bleeding, mastitis, engorgement, oversupply and blocked ducts, and the support I received in the initial weeks and months (from my independent midwives, as well as the ABA) was so helpful to me. Giving Tabitha artificial milk was never an option for me, but there were days when I cried and cried from pain and hopelessness - still, getting through those initial challenges was so incredibly empowering and I feel like it helped me form my identity as a mother.
Initially, I helped out with my local ABA group whenever I was asked - I volunteered as a 'demo breastfeeding mum' with Tabitha a couple of times for the prenatal breastfeeding education workshops that the ABA runs for pregnant couples; I was also a 'demo mum' for a talk on breastfeeding at Canterbury Girls' Secondary College; Tabitha and I posed for a newspaper article on World Breastfeeding Week; and we attended every fortnightly local meeting we could.
After a while, with some encouragement from my local ABA region leaders, I started thinking about training as a Breastfeeding Counselor - a voluntary position, this is a Certificate IV qualification, involving roughly 1-2 years' of study, and ongoing training and professional development. I am now thrilled to say that I am officially a Trainee Breastfeeding Counselor!
Tabitha and I are going to Ballarat next weekend for the annual Victorian ABA Conference, which will include some fantastic workshops and panel discussions, including one on the ethics and issues surrounding milk donation (after donating literally litres of milk myself to other babies in the initial weeks, I am incredibly passionate about milk donation).
I have a lot of study in front of me, which I can do at my own pace, but I am so excited about getting to the point where I can go and help women and their babies with their breastfeeding challenges. Also - one of the best parts about volunteering and training with the ABA is that, of course, Tabitha is welcome at every training session workshop, conference and event!
As soon as I put Tabitha down for her nap this morning, I walked into the kitchen and noticed that most of my lovely fresh peaches from the farmers' market last weekend were suddenly ripe and ready, filling the room with a sweet peach smell. Tabitha and I like peaches, but we sure weren't going to eat a dozen in one day - so I decided to make a cake with some of them. Today I have my Australian Breastfeeding Association local meeting, and also Mothers' Group in the afternoon, and I like to take a cake to at least one of those meet-ups.
I couldn't find a peach cake recipe that I liked the look of, and didn't have time to make a pie (with the chilling and blind baking of the pastry etc), so I made one up. It turned out really nicely, so it's worth a try next time you have too many peaches!
Fresh Peach Cake
180g wholemeal self raising flour
180g self raising flour
2 eggs
225g white sugar
185g melted butter
1 generous, overflowing teaspoon of vanilla extract
4 - 5 large peaches, sliced (each half sliced into 5 or 6 pieces)
3 good tablespoons brown sugar
2 tablespoons butter, extra
Demerara sugar and Cinnamon, for sprinking
Firstly, melt the 2 tablespoons of butter and the brown sugar together in a frypan (preferably stainless steel or seasoned cast iron, as non-stick doesn't caramelize as well). Pile in the peach slices, and gently stir over medium heat until the peaches are cooked but still firm, and coated in an oozy, golden caramel.
Here is the bowl of peach slices (5 peaches worth, I think):
Here is the pan of peaches caramalising in the brown sugar and butter:
Meanwhile, in a bowl, mix together both flours, the eggs, sugar, butter and vanilla extract. The mixture will come together into something between a batter and a cookie dough - drier and firmer than an ordinary cake batter. This is what you want!
Here is the batter - there is a fair amount, this is a massive bowl:
Prepare a 24cm springform pan by greasing and flouring, then lining the bottom with a circle of baking paper.
Press around 2/3 of the cake mixture into the bottom of the prepared pan, coming up ever so slightly around the edges:
Pour in the peaches (make sure they are not runny and juicy - if they are too 'wet', you'd probably want to strain off some of the moisture), and spread out evenly:
Then press the rest of the cake mixture over the top - you can just flatten small amounts with your clean hands, and press it gently over the peaches. You want it to be uneven and a little broken, so that it spreads and gets a little crispy and the peaches show through a bit. The cake won't be terribly high in the tin, but will rise quite a bit during the cooking.
Top fairly generously with a sprinkle of demerara sugar and cinnamon (as above), then put in a 180 degree oven for around 45 minutes or so, or until the top is nicely browned:
Sorry, I do not have any gratuitous inside photos - I took it to ABA and in a room full of 20+ mothers, plus babies and children, it disappeared in an instant!
You could serve this hot / warm with ice cream or cream as a dessert (yes please!) or cold and sliced. It's not a neat cake to slice cold, but it is tastes great and is easy to make. You could also top the cold cake with some toasted almond flakes, and I think a little finely chopped thyme would also be really nice added to the peaches while you caramalise them.
I also had a couple of overripe bananas to use up, so I made a batch of banana muffins. This recipe is from Nigella Lawson's How To Be a Domestic Goddess, and is quite healthy. Tabitha has eaten half a banana muffin this morning, and seemed completely engrossed, so she must like them.
Banana Muffins
30g unsalted butter
60g honey
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
2 large, very ripe bananas
150g plain flour
1 heaped teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
Pinch of salt
Melt the butter, honey and vanilla extract together in a small saucepan, then set aside.
Mash the bananas, then add the melted mixture to them.
In a bowl, sift together the flour, baking powder, bicarb soda, cinnamon and salt. Pour the banana/butter mixture into the dry ingredients, and gently mix together - you want to just stir a few times. Don't overmix, because it makes for tough muffins. The mixture will be, to quote Nigella, "a not terrible attractive lumpy sludge".
Divide the mixture between 12 medium paper cases, placed into a 12-hole muffin tin, then sprinkle the tops with demerara sugar (this is my addition - I sprinkle it on top of most muffins, it makes the tops nice and crunchy).
Bake at 190 degrees for 15 - 25 minutes or until just cooked. Cool on a wire rack.
Note - I have made these before as vegan banana muffins for some vegan friends (I sent them to Sydney in the overnight post!). Just replace the butter with non-dairy margarine, and the honey with golden syrup.
Yesterday, Tabitha and I ventured out in the heat to go shopping for some Japanese groceries. I really love going shopping for Japanese groceries - or to any Asian supermarket, really! I can spend an hour wandering the aisles, filling my basket with loads of stuff (half of which I will never use). My favourite Japanese grocery stores are Suzuran in Camberwell and Fujimart in South Yarra - Fujimart is a little bigger, though I have a fondness for Suzuran solely for the silly reason that it is owned by my father's old karate teacher from 25+ years ago.
The ingredients that I always stock up on at Suzuran / Fujimart include:
Instant dashi (Ajinomoto) - dashi is the main stock used in Japanese cooking, and it is a base for hundreds of recipes, from soup noodle dishes to simmered pumpkin to donburi meals and miso soup. Proper dashi requires kombu, a type of kelp, and finely shaved bonito, which is dried skipjack tuna. It is not difficult to make (you can buy shaved bonito), however for a quick dinner I always use hon-dashi, which is the Japanese equivalent of stock cubes - a powdered dashi. I use the Ajinomoto brand, which comes in a small jar or a box containing a number of packets. This is one of the most useful ingredients in my kitchen - for example, I can make Oyakodon for dinner with some dashi, soy, sugar, eggs, chicken, onions and rice, all in less than 20 minutes.
Dancing bonito flakes - officially called hanakatsuo, these are the thinnest form of shaved bonito. In Japanese restaurants, they often come sprinkled on age dashi tofu, okonomiyaki and some donburi dishes, and when I was little (maybe 2 or 3 years old!) they were the highlight of eating at a Japanese restaurant for me. I used to always order California rolls, age dashi tofu and steamed white rice - I could rattle off my order by myself before the age of three - but my favourite part was the dancing bonito flakes. Last time I went to the Japanese grocery store, I forgot the name, and mimed a sort of dancing-hula-hands thing while I said 'bonito'. The Japanese shop assistant laughed and copied my geasture, and said "oh dancing bonito!" Very cute. I put them on lots of things at home - donburi dishes, age dashi tofu, and sometimes even plain rice. See below for a (pretty crappy) video:
Panko - Since I discovered panko breadcrumbs, I don't really buy regular breadcrumbs any more. I buy matzo meal still, but for regular crumbing I always use panko. They are lighter, fluffier, and fry up crispier.
Croquettes - Suzuran stocks really delicious crab croquettes. They are frozen, around $5 for 6. I defrost them, shallow fry them in some oil, and serve with steamed rice and some bok choi stir fried in oyster sauce/fish sauce/sweet chilli/sesame oil/chinkiang rice vinegar/mirin/soy. It's not exactly Japanese (!) but the sauce is delicious over the rice, and with the crab croquettes, is an incredibly fast, simple and inexpensive dinner for two.
Toasted sesame seeds - these are just regular sesame seeds, toasted so that their flavour is stronger and more akin to sesame oil (which I am addicted to). I keep them in a shaker jar and sprinkle them over veggies, teriyaki salmon and ginger/orange marinated duck breasts, amongst other things.
Furikake rice topping - this is a sort of savoury sprinkle, delicious for topping plain steamed rice. It generally includes little pieces of dried seaweed, dried fish, sesame seeds, bonito, sugar, salt, and even things like dried egg, miso or dried vegetables. I like the simple one, and an easy lunch for me includes plain rice, furikake, some leftover protein (fish/chicken/tofu) and a small bowl of miso.
Mirin - a sweet rice wine. Together with dashi and soy, mirin is a key ingredient in many soups, noodle dishes and donburi meals.
Miso and miso soup - Japanese grocers sell tubs of miso paste. You can coat a piece of oily fish with white miso (450g white miso, 150ml mirin and 225g white sugar), marinate for a few days, then grill over high heat to caramalise the surface, finishing in the oven to cook through - here is sort of the recipe I use, though my method is a little different, and I often use salmon. Nice on some simple rice with some greens.
Soba and Udon - dried soba and udon noodles are a standby in my kitchen. Not only are they perfect for simple soup dinners (cook them, meanwhile make a soup made of dashi, soy, mirin and sugar, gently poach some chicken pieces or prawns in the soup, add some sliced greens or snow peas, add the cooked noodles) but if I am in a rush and don't have time to make rice, some noodles will generally do instead.
Good soy (shoyu) or tamari for gluten free - you can get a much wider range of high quality Japanese soy sauces, including tamari, a gluten free soy, at Asian grocers.
Sesame oil - I am seriously addicted to sesame oil! It is a fairly strong flavour, and I love to add a thin drizzle to steamed broccolini, bok choi or other Asian greens, or to simple foods like pan-fried chicken breast.
Silken tofu - this comes in a little plastic packet, in the fridge section. I mix it with a simple brown sugar syrup (equal parts brown sugar and water, boil to reduce by half, add a few drops of vanilla extract) for a cool, simple and refreshing dessert (also vegan, which is useful to know if you ever have call for a vegan dessert).
Maybe you are already obsessed with Japanese groceries, like me. The above is probably very basic, in that case! But hopefully there is something new to try...
My friend Amy is on a gluten free diet. This is generally thought to be a bad thing, if you are into food - gluten free 'imitations' of regular food, such as bagels, tend to be really tough and wrong. I don't know much about gluten free eating, however I thought I would share the recipe for the delicious nut-based 'museli' that Amy is eating for breakfast lately. It is incredibly yummy, healthy, and works equally well as a museli as it does as a topping for yoghurt or sprinkled on top of muffins, cakes or fruit crumbles prior to baking.
1/4 cup of flaxseed
3/4 cup of almonds (toasted or raw)
1/2 cup of sunflower seeds
1/4 cup of shredded coconut
1/2 cup of pecans
1/4 cup of walnuts
1/2 cup of dried apple (you could certainly add other dried fruits such as dates or dried cranberries)
2 teaspoons cinnamon powder
1 - 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
Combine all of the above in a food processor, and give a fair few pulses to ensure everything is chopped and combined. Amy came over and did a batch with FOUR TIMES the above quantities - see below photos, and know that my food processor is massive.
Store the mixture in the fridge, because otherwise the ground nuts will go rancid. If you would like to 'lighten up' the mixture for breakfast cereal, you could combine it with some puffed rice or bran (obviously bran is not gluten free).
For a warm Bircher-style breakfast, soak one cup of mixture with 1/2 cup of milk or soy milk overnight. In the morning, heat in a pan or microwave, and add more hot milk or soy milk to taste.
Another gluten free must is the incredible and inspirational blog Gluten Free Girl - http://glutenfreegirl.com/ . Honestly, her blog and book are well worth a look, even if you are a fan of gluten (like me!) because most of the recipes are completely delicious, and a far cry from the 'fake gluten' type products you find in health stores.
In other news - Tabitha and I went to Chadstone shopping centre yesterday, to run some errands, and I bought her some new toys (now that she is crawling, sitting and even pulling herself up to STAND UP, she is ready for different types of toys). She really enjoyed playing with the Fisher Price Peek-a-Blocks during our stay at the O'Connell Centre, so I got some of them, as well as some cute musical spheres and an activity cube that she can stand up and lean on while she plays. The Peek-a-Blocks are clear blocks, each with a moving scene or object within - for example, a train that turns around through a tunnel, a puppy with a wagging tail, a snowman with little loose 'snowflakes' or a chicken that squeaks when you press the top of the block.
Predictably, Tabitha was more interested in playing with the little cardboard box that came in the pack, as opposed to the actual toys. Kids huh?!
I think I mentioned that my garden is going brilliantly - see below one of the MASSIVE zucchinis which we have grown. For scale, the tomato in front of it is just a regular cherry tomato:
The nappies we use are Itti Bitti d'Lish (mostly All-in-Ones with some Snap-in-Ones). About a week ago, Itti Bitti released some of their coveted Limited Edition prints, and I quickly snapped up a couple. Below is one of the LE prints which arrived during the week - so cute! If you are interested to try out modern cloth nappies (MCNs), a good way to start is to buy an Itti Bitti Trial Pack, which contains one of each of the d'Lish styles.
I will dedicate a whole post to MCNs soon.
Last but not least - a couple more photos of our new baby Marilyn the Diamond Python. She is so pretty, and already calm and placid despite being a baby:
Look at how incy-wincy and delicate she is:
A little food update - Tabitha is now 7 months and 2 weeks old. She has been eating solids for a little over 6 weeks. According to some 'baby weaning' books, which advocate only introducing one new food every 7 - 10 days (yep, even seemingly innocuous foods like carrot!), Tabitha should have tried MAYBE six foods. If we were following these old fashioned books, she probably would have tried Rice Cereal; carrot; pumpkin; pear; apple; banana and maybe something exotic like pureed apricot. Tee hee! It really makes me laugh out loud to think about that!
With baby led weaning / baby led solids (BLW / BLS), the baby simply eats regular family food, and feeds herself, instead of being spoon-fed. I don't want to bore everyone to tears by explaining the concept every time I mention it, so I will say "read the book" if you are interested in more information - it is available at most libraries, or online for around $15. There is also loads of decent information on the internet. I will, of course, still be posting loads about BLW, but I don't want to keep explaining the basics over and over.
Thanks to BLW, Tabitha has had the pleasure of trying a lot of foods in her short time as a food-eater. We've given her all sorts of things, including egg, peanut butter and nut products, dairy, wheat and berries. So far, the only things she seems to be intolerant of (or mildly allergic to) are eggs that is not fully cooked (as found in Carbonara and mayonnaise), and tomato and eggplant (part of the same family). The egg, tomato and eggplant have each given her a mild contact rash around her mouth, though she has not seemed at all bothered by this.
I have updated the list of foods that Tabitha has eaten so far, over the past 6 or so weeks. I have probably left lots out - but even so, you can get an idea of the wide range of tastes and textures that a BLW baby is exposed to when they are first discovering food, over a traditionally puree-fed baby. Of course, BLW means that the babies get to touch and feel their food, examining it up close in its whole form, rather than having a puree popped straight into their mouth.
Bread - pita, sourdough, rye, bagel
Bread dipped in all sorts of sauces from our plates
Rice cakes
Vegimite
Peanut Butter
Taramasalata
Cheese - Onetik Ossau-Iraty, Comte, Cheddar.
Peach
Spicy marinated chicken rib
Apricot
Banana
Green beans
Tuna sashimi
Avocado
Steak
Lamb cutlets
White fish
Capsicum
Gingerbread
Nectarine
Roast pumpkin
Brocolli
Brocollini
Raspberry
Cucumber
Cauliflower
Steamed carrot
Edamame (soy bean pods)
Roast potatoes in duck fat
Asparagus
Spinach and feta golzeme
Carbonara
Baba Ganoush dip
Veggie burger
Strawberry
Zucchini
Eggplant
Snowpeas
Tomatoes (in a sauce from a bowl of mussels, with onions, garlic etc.)
Some homemade cakes, like date loaf, carrot cake, banana cake.
Chocolate ice cream (a taste)
Frozen blended pure fruit (strawberry and banana)
Teriyaki salmon
Rice
Sushi - little nori rolls with prawn, tuna and avocado
Some new sauces, such as a saffron butter sauce on some steamed veggies
Plain organic full cream yoghurt
Porridge (with dates, banana, cocoanut and a little organic cows' milk)
Sardines
Crayfish
Prawns
Chicken in various guises
Challah toast
Stewed apple
Jam
Almond spread and ABC nut spread
Watermellon
Cantaloupe
Almond croissant
Salt and Pepper Squid with Vietnamese lime and chili dressing
Rabbit and Porcini terrine
Tempura vegetables
Gyoza
Har Gow dumplings
Falafel
Satay chicken
Pasta with pesto
Her fine motor coordination has improved immensely, and she can now manipulate fairly small pieces of food into her mouth. She will often pick up a piece of toast or rice cake, examine it carefully, and then turn it around so that it is 'topping side down', meaning she gets maximum flavour! Clever baby.
Tabitha's favourite foods so far seem to be: avocado; sardines; capsicum; brocollini; and, unsurprisingly, sweet things like ice cream and cake (which she's only had the odd taste of, but never knocks back!)
We haven't avoided offering her spicy or strongly flavoured foods - because she is feeding herself, she can easily decide not to eat something. She hasn't shown a preference for the classic 'bland flavours' recommended for babies (she completely turns her nose up at things like steamed carrot, boiled potatoes, steamed pumpkin) and seems to really enjoy stronger flavours like mild spices, sardines in oil, gyoza, pesto and natural yoghurt.
Experts point out that breastfed babies are exposed to lots of new tastes every day through their milk, so are generally more adventurous eaters in the early days. But all babies, regardless, are exposed to some variety of tastes via the amniotic fluid in their days as a fetus.
Woke up to a stunning day - clear blue skies, warm sunshine and a cheerful baby. The Daddy is at work, so Tabitha and I went down to the Boroondara Farmers' Market with my friend Amy, and my parents and sister.
Look how nice it was down there this morning! Aside from whatever fruit/veg/meat I happen to need, things that I routinely get at the Market are:
Rhubarb for Rhubarb and Strawberry Pie, and for rhubarb muffins
Berries - blueberries, strawberries, raspberries when in season. I never liked blueberries until I tasted the incredible organic ones at the market one day!
VBK Veggieburgers - they are SO good, full of grated veggies with no 'filler', and they cook beautifully, with a crispy outside, on a panini press. They also have gluten free for those gf people (like Amy).
A spinach and feta golzeme, and a decaf coffee, for breakfast. Always.
A fresh squeezed orange juice - on hot days, you can buy them semi-frozen into a delicious slurry.
Walnuts from the friendly walnut man (this turned into the World's Most Awkward Conversation this morning - dad, making small-talk with the vendor, commented "and I hear walnuts are excellent for preventing prostate cancer!" to which the 50-something male vendor replied, "they didn't stop me from getting prostate cancer". Cue awkward silence. Dad bought loads of walnuts then - I think he felt bad!
Today, I also got a few kilograms of beautiful ripe peaches (some for eating, some for a peach and custard pie). I didn't need to get any tomatoes or zucchini, because our plants are going CRAZY in the backyard.
Here is Tabitha eating some spinach and feta Golzeme in the shade of her pram:
We bumped into my former boss, her husband, and her lovely little daughter. They also had their beautiful and exhuberant standard poodle, Jet - I was there when Jet first came home as a puppy, and used to see her everyday, so it was really nice to see her. I'm sure she remembered me - she jumped up onto her back legs and pawed at me furiously! Very cute.
Tabby wore a Rock Your Baby romper, which Amy bought her as a gift last year. It always elicits loads of comments from people - she looks just like Minnie Mouse!
Tabitha really likes our trips to the Farmers' Market - lots of puppies, smiling faces, new foods to try and other children and babies. Here we are having a play with a bag of walnuts:
My sister (9) discovered a fantastic stall selling blended frozen fruit - you choose your fruit (she chose strawberries, banana and mango), they feed it into the freezeing-and-blending-machine, and it comes out as an incredible sorbet-type dessert! Nothing else in it but pure fruit! I am very impressed. I would like one of these machines at home. Tabitha tried some of the frozen fruit, and seemed to quite like it too.
Oh - speaking of markets, I don't think I've mentioned that last weekend, The Daddy and I took Tabitha to the Queen Victoria Market to check out the sights and sounds, and ended up buying a baby Diamond Python at the fantastic Upmarket Aquarium! We had been looking for a new python for quite a while (we used to have a Spotted Python, Noodle, and I have a Bearded Dragon called Atticus), and when we handled this beautiful baby, her temperament was just incredible - calm, confident, not at all snappy for a baby! So we brought her home, and she is settling in nicely. She is only a few months old, around 50cm long and as thick as my index finger. She will get to somewhere between 4 - 10 feet, but probably around 6 feet.
The Daddy suggested calling her Marilyn ("Diamonds are a Girl's Best Friend") and I agreed that it is a good name - if she turns out to be a boy (no way to know until over a year old) she can be named for Marilyn Manson haha...
Here is a quick photo - I don't want to disturb her too much in her initial weeks, while she settles in, so I will get some better photos next week.
So this morning we came home, after being at the O'Connell Family Centre in Canterbury for four nights, working on Tabitha's sleeping.
Tabby has been waking up 1-3 hourly overnight, and only sleeping 30-60 minutes at a time during the day. She has also found it difficult to get to sleep - it distracts her if we pat or rock her, but she was getting a little upset if we left her alone to get to sleep.
So, the big question - how did it go?! In short - fantastic! No stress, no tears, great results, quite relaxing.
With regard to the settling and sleeping - at the start of the week, I wrote that I would like to be feeding her at 6pm, 10pm, 2am and when she wakes at 6am. Well, that is exactly what we're now doing! Her bedtime is between 7 - 7:30pm, and on the first night, she woke at 9:30. I went and stood outside her door with the nurse, instead of going in to feed her, and she cried out a few times, grizzled for a minute, then went straight back to sleep. I then did a 'dreamfeed' (feeding her while she is still half asleep) at 10pm. She woke at around 2am, and I lay quietly and let her grizzle - she went back to sleep, and slept through until 3am. I fed her, then she slept through until 6:30am. From then on, I was feeding her half an hour before bed, at around 10pm, and once in the middle of the night (between 2 - 4am), and then when she wakes in the morning. Sometimes, she does wake up, but instead of feeding her, she grizzles and goes back to sleep on her own! She seems much more rested in the mornings.
After re-settling her only twice for daytime sleeps, she now sleeps for between 1 - 2 hours, three times a day. Our vague 'routine' is loosely like this:
- 6:30am wake up. Breastfeed at 7am, breakfast toast at 7:30am, play for an hour with toys and books.
- 8:30am nap time.
- 10:30am wake up. Breastfeed at 11am, activity out of the house (Gymbaroo, swimming, shopping etc.)
- 12:30pm nap time.
- 2:00pm wake up. Breastfeed at 2:30pm. Lunch. Play out of doors - backyard, park, out for a walk.
- 4:00pm nap time.
- 5:00pm wake up. Dinner. Quiet play at home - blocks, stories, songs etc.
- 6:30pm breastfeed and pre-bed routine (clean teeth - all 6 of them! - pajamas on, read a story etc.)
- 7:00pm bedtime.
- 10:30pm dreamfeed
- 3:30am night feed
There you go. We follow that now, very roughly. She is thriving, really seems to enjoy the routine. Go figure! I'm not really a 'routine' person, and when she was a little baby it was much better for us to be loose and cruisey, but this timetable works nicely now. I will do things pretty much the same way with the next baby, only I think I'll start working to this sort of routine a little earlier, maybe 5 or 6 months.
The O'Connell Centre nurses were all brilliant, really kind and compassionate and knowledgeable, and always happy to play with the babies (blowing bubbles, reading stories etc.) while I had a shower, got breakfast or tidied up. It was incredibly relaxing having all of our meals prepared, as well - the babies were given steamed vegetables and meat, as well as cereal, toast etc., and the lunches and dinners for the parents were really decent - lots of veggies, healthy, large servings. We had stir-fry, roast lamb, sticky date pudding, couscous salad, apple strudel - and twice a day, homemade treats like pikelets, brownies and spinach muffins came out on a big plate! I definitely got used to that, and am already missing Snack O'Clock!
We also had some planned activities, such as painted 'footprints' for the babies, which the nurses laminated for us; a talk on reading to babies, and choosing good books; a few walks around the neighbourhood; a session on ways to relax and nurture ourselves (!); and there was also an evening for the dads to chat about any issues they had, with each other, run by a male staffer.
Were there any downsides? Absolutely. Communal living is lovely in some ways - there is always someone to chat to, and a baby to play with - however sharing a bathroom is never fun, and at night, the babies' crying and waking did keep me awake a fair amount, particularly on the first night (although Tabitha didn't wake). Overall, though, I wouldn't hesitate to recommend it, in particularly because of how gentle the whole process was. We learnt a lot - much more than I can jot down here - and I have lots of confidence going forward, even if things 'regress' for a week, which apparently is quite common when the baby is back home in their usual surroundings.
Today I tried Tabitha with yoghurt for the first time. If they are having dairy, babies are supposed to eat whole milk, unsweetened natural yoghurt - it's full of great things like active cultures, protein and calcium, and it's best to get them used to the taste of healthy natural yoghurt, rather than those scary 'baby yoghurts' with cartoons all over them and loads of sugar inside them.
Natural yoghurt is definitely an acquired taste - I am thankful that my mother fed me lots of it as a baby and child, because even though I still find it quite sour, I do enjoy the taste. For myself, I mix it with some mashed banana and honey, or some fresh berries and a sprinkle of muesli. For Tabitha, I gave it to her plain to start with, just to see what she thinks! She found it a little sour, pulling some funny faces ("Erm, Mumma, are you sure about this? Am I supposed to eat it? It is so sour!"), but she had the same reaction with ripe nectarines and peaches. Even though she made a few faces, she kept pulling the spoon back to her mouth for more.
She had some rice cake with almond butter to eat, feeding herself, and I offered spoonfuls of yoghurt as she was eating her rice cake. The baby led weaning approach says that spoon feeding is okay, as long as it isn't the main part of their diet, and as long as you carefully watch the baby for cues - while they are opening their mouth and seeming keen, keep offering, but as soon as they stop or turn away, stop with the spooning. She probably had around 6 small teaspoonfuls of yoghurt - I was pretty impressed!
Typical Tabitha - needs a bit of food in both hands!
Mouth full, bottom lip out with a Thinking Face:
Whatchu lookin' at?!
Oooh! This is strange but I LIKE it!
Chewing on a mouthful of yoghurt AND rice cake:
Yay! Yoghurt!
Craming a bit too much in her mouth...
Hahahaha, old man face...
Sour face :) But she did like it!
The yoghurt we eat is Elgaar Farm organic full cream yoghurt - it is EXCELLENT! We get out milk from Elgaar Farm too, because it tastes amazing, is not homogenised, and most importantly, the cows are looked after so beautifully - they keep the calves with their mothers until they are old enough to wean, and when the cows are too old to produce milk, they retire them to a lovely herd of senior cows, on the same verdant Tasmanian farm, to live out their days eating grass and just being a cow.
This week, we are at the O'Connell Family Centre in Canterbury, which is the Mercy hospital's early childhood / sleep centre. We are working on Tabitha's sleeping, since she is still waking 1 - 3 hourly all night. She doesn't even want to be fed every time she wakes up - rather, she is just having trouble getting back to sleep when she rouses.
The O'Connell FC is wonderful - they do not do controlled crying (most 'sleep schools' do), rather they work on reading the baby's cues and responding accordingly. The philosphy here is pretty much what we have been doing at home - i.e. if Tabitha is 'grizzling' in her cot, we leave her, but if she becomes distressed, we go in and comfort her until she is completely calm. We use the techniques from Safe Sleep Space (we had this woman come to our home for a half day late last year, which was great). This has been working brilliantly with her daytime sleeps, and putting her to bed at night - I can now just put her in her sleeping bag, give her her special 'lamby' soft toy, walk out, and she will grizzle for a minute or two and then go to sleep, normally.
However, overnight, she is waking a LOT, and can't get back to sleep without being put to the breast - sometimes she feeds, but often she just latches on and goes instantly back to sleep. So, I would like her to be able to get back to sleep on her own, or even better, to not be waking all night at all! I think she is tired from all her night waking - she yawns a lot and rubs her eyes in the mornings - so hopefully if she sleeps for longer, she will be better rested. So will I!
We arrived this afternoon, and we will be staying until Friday morning. The nurses are GREAT, really kind and responsive to the babies, and do not advocate any sort of controlled crying. Another wonderful part of our stay is that, for the week, I am solely focussed on Tabitha and her sleeps - no rushing around, no cleaning, not even cooking, because all of our meals are prepared for us! For dinner tonight, we had a nice vegetable pasta, with passionfruit cheesecake for dessert, and Tabitha had steamed veggies and cooked apple. She made MUCH more mess than the other babies here, because of the baby led weaning, but all the nurses commented on how happy she is at mealtime, and how much she enjoys her food.
The main downside of our stay here is that there are lots of other babies, all with sleep issues, so there is a fair amount of crying. I imagine it will be difficult overnight - just as she is getting back to sleep, she may be woken by another crying baby. Frustrating!
Overall, I am optimistic about her learning to sleep for longer stretches, but I am not under any illusions that she will start 'sleeping through the night'. I am still perfectly happy to be feeding her once overnight (e.g. feeds at 6pm, 10pm, 2am and 6am when she wakes), but at the moment it's closer to 6, 7:30, 9, 10:30, 12, 2, 3:30, 5:30 and 6:30.
I am a full time mother to our enchanting daughter, Tabitha, and our gentle giant son, Zachary. Also mumma to two cheeky Burmese cats, Pudding and Possum, a chubby lizard, a diamond python and five hilarious Pekin bantam chooks.
I am a full time mother to our enchanting daughter, Tabitha, and our gentle giant son, Zachary. Also mumma to two cheeky Burmese cats, Pudding and Possum, a chubby lizard, a diamond python and five hilarious Pekin bantam chooks.
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